The widow of the mountain biker whose body was found on Skiddaw on Monday has paid a glowing tribute to an accomplished adventurer.
John Graham, 59, was reported missing on Sunday evening when he failed to return home from a biking trip.
Cumbria Constabulary said efforts were made throughout the night to locate his vehicle to establish the area he was in and at 4.50am the following day Keswick Mountain Recuse Team found the body of the Silloth man on Lonscale Fell.
His widow Helen Graham said: “Everyone who knew John will be grieving. He was unique; once met, never forgotten.
“A warm, genuine, inspiring and generous man. We had wonderful plans for our adventurous future as John prepared to retire, and though seldom sitting still, we were so contended and utterly happy after almost 40 years together.
“He filled every moment with something worthwhile, but not in agitation or restlessness.
“He could find the funny side of most things and enthuse those around him to be the best they could be.”
Mrs Graham thanked the volunteers and friends who searched for her husband. She said: “The family are devastated, but wish to express their extreme gratitude for the tireless efforts of Cumbria police, the combined mountain rescue teams and John’s amazing friends who all helped to find him and bring him home.”
She said Mr Graham was an accomplished outdoor enthusiast. “The world was there to be explored, from his earlier days in Bradford, in St Bede’s Scouts, canoeing in the First Division Slaloms, and playing rugby at Bradford Salem,” Mrs Graham said. “He stayed with rugby and played a rather brutal flanker into his 50s before sliding into the refereeing side of things in Cumbria.
“Moving to the Lake District in 1990, he was quickly a local character around Hackthorpe, and despite the massive burden of responsibilities he soon bore as a headteacher at the West Cumbria Pupil Referral Unit, he remained an ace dad to Claire and Ruth.
“Much of his recreation featured two wheels of one shape or another, and in place of the underground exploration that had taken him to New Zealand, Switzerland and Derbyshire and the Yorkshire Dales in the past, he transferred his attentions to the high fells.
“He maintained his Mountain Leadership and diverse outdoor pursuits qualifications for over 30 years, and knew especially the western fells with a respectful but affectionate familiarity.
“As a family we spent most weekends in rivers, on lakes or up hills close to home, but accepting that John was in a different league of adventurer, it was no hardship to wave him off whenever he could, on a more extreme challenge with his brother Anthony, or similarly athletic friends.
“He cherished his close connections with all his brothers, his mum and dad and wider family and we had some powerfully enduring friendships.
“God created something very special in John and the world seems a slightly lesser place without him.
“I’m aware another family lost a loved one, walking on a different upland area, and my heart goes out to them too.
“His warm smile, idiotic sense of mischief, great fried breakfasts, strange ability to break things and loud vocal renderings of early rock classics will stay with us forever.
“As his beloved girls said, he was just the best.”
Mr Graham’s body was found after a 2½-hour search, by a Sarda dog attached to Patterdale MRT, 60m down a steep rocky gully close to Lonscale Fell.
A Keswick Mountain Rescue Team spokesperson said: “He had obviously fallen a long way and had suffered multiple fatal injuries.
“His bike was found fairly close to a rocky path section on Lonscale Fell which is notoriously slippery when wet, which has led to previous accidents.
“The team had to set up a lowering system to recover his body 400m down to the track below, at which point he could be handed over to the relevant authorities.”
The 5½-hour rescue operation involved 12 Keswick MRT members.
Anna Walker
12 September 2013Helen,
I have only just heard. My love and thoughts are with you and Claire and Ruth.
The last time I saw John he was cycling on the concrete road near our house.
He was his usual chatty self and told me all about how the girls were doing and of how proud he was of them.
I am so very sorry.
Mary Robertshaw
12 September 2013Oh Helen,
How very sad for you all. Such a lovely husband, father and friend. He was always smiling and always so very positive. What a big miss he will be.
My love to you all,
Mary
Clive Sutton
12 September 2013Helen,
I'm so sorry to hear the sad news. John was such a great bloke. His big smile and big personality will be missed by all who knew him.
My thoughts are with you all.
Clive.
Dick Cleasby
12 September 2013Hi
I played rugby with John at Upper Eden, happy memories about a great man, thoughts are with you x
Dick
Doreen Couzens
13 September 2013Remembering the good times at Tong Park.I will always remember you all with affection,particularly Johns smile .Although we have had no contact with you for many years we often think about you all.Our heart goes out to you all .Doreen and Stuart (Baildon)x
Russell Butterfield
13 September 2013John Graham.
Wylaf wers, tawaf wedyn. (I shall weep for a while, then be silent.)
Is it selfish to journey solo across a mountain, to take high risks on narrow ledges above fearsome gullies? Is it a dereliction of duty and responsibility to our loved ones to take such unnecessary risks? Are we powerless to help the adrenaline junkie who seeks thrills and spills in the high mountains?
Or can we in some way accept and justify this high cost and sacrifice?
John died on a beautiful ride which so many of us know well. Its a ride of facets, moods, of changing vistas. Bassenthwaite Lake, Thornthwaite Forest, glimpses of Carl Side and Ullock pike, and the first real 'physical challenge' of Whitewater Dash. Then there is the bleak and beautiful wilderness of the high moors across to Skiddaw House, a remote and haunting old hostel worthy of a Bronte novel. Next comes the technical but beautiful mountain side traverse down the Glenderaterra valley, Lonscale Fell towering above you on one side, and far across the steep valley are views of Blencathra. Keep a tight focus, guard your line, stay loose in the middle of the bike, and in no time you can relax and speedspiral down through Brundholme Wood and across the easy slopes of Latrigg to a well earned pint in Keswick.
It is the heightened sense of perception, an acute awareness of self, which is the justification for such a ride. Not '..because the mountain is there..' but rather that we, mind, body and spirit, are here.
There is no sun without shadow, and it is essential we know the night. Lets pray John now enjoys the brilliance beyond.
For the moment, there is a stunning silence, and a pain which makes all movement hurt. But, in time I hope, John's laugh will ride the breeze above Askham Fell; his steady pace will guide me over the Scafells; his warm reassurance will glue my trembling hands to the crag, his steady rhythm guide my paddles across Ullswater.
Thank you John.
Malcolm, Susan, Thomas and Kate Robinson
13 September 2013David Ingham passed on your sad news Helen.
You describe John exactly. Such a simple guy to get along with from first meeting and - as Doreen and others say - the smile which was crucial in our line of work.
In my minds eye I have 10.45 and the Daily Express crossword to solve with John and half a dozen reluctant teenagers. Great days.
Take strength from our thoughts to you and the girls.
Malcolm & Susan Robinson - Kate & Thomas
Margaret and Peter Prudhoe
14 September 2013Helen, our deepest sympathy for you and all John's family.
Lucy Butterfield
14 September 2013Such shocking terrible news of a wonderful uncle.
My thoughts and love to all the family at this sad sad time.
Lucy Xx
Ian, Julie & Lewis Williamson
16 September 2013Dear Helen & family,
Malcolm has just rung us with your very sad news.
Although it has been many years since "the Tong Park days" you have often been in our thoughts and conversations. It was a privilege to work alongside John. They were special years fondly remembered. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Ian, Julie & Lewis Williamson
Alan White
16 September 2013I didn't know John but had just been walking in the Lakes with brother Dave and Val who had been staying with him. Sincere condolences to all your family
Sue and Ivan Godfrey
17 September 2013We only met John once but he made exactly the wonderful impression on us that has been described so eloquently in the article and subsequent comments.
Like Alan, we were walking with Dave and Val in the Lakes and pass on our sincere condolences to all the family
Maggie Green
29 September 2013I met John through work and felt immediately comfortable with his easy smile and straight way of talking. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you take comfort from the many happy memories you will have of him.
Martin
27 July 2015I remember John Graham teacher from my school Eden grove he was good teacher good man and can have a laugh wiv I am terribly sorry for your loss big Rip goes to him.
Dean farnworth
22 February 2017I wondering if anyone can help me iv been looking for helen 4 years now an had no luck. She was a teacher at eden grove scholl she as 2 daughters if anyone could help or no where i an get in touch with her id be happy. Il leave my details in this message. Im just hoping someone can help me thanks.you
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